Mother's Life From 1958-1976

Life went on for Flora and her "kids." Dolores finishedcounty level, saw to it that he had many saws to
nursing and married in 1958. Frank apprenticed to oursharpen and as long as his hands allowed him he
dad after high school and became a fine journeymancontinued to build fine pieces of furniture like small
carpenter. "Little" Celeste married on our parents'tables and desks.
Thirtieth Wedding Anniversary and Flora's nest wasFinally, when Leva Dopa stopped working and he
finally empty.became increasingly physically helpless, he just gave
She doted on her grandchildren as they came along,up. One day, mother returned from a hairdressing
loving each of them. Dad and she began to takeappointment to find him dead - it was about ten in the
vacations to Maine and elsewhere and were active inmorning when she called me and I rushed across town
the Franco American Club.to find my dad with his arms crossed on his chest and
I went back to Graduate School in 1965 and in 1968stone cold. He was gone from us in this life forever, on
earned my Doctorate Degree. My mom and especiallyAugust 7, 1976.
my dad told me it was the highpoint of their lives. MyMy brother and sisters came to see him before the
dad's "You're going to school boy" had come true.undertaker took him away and ma retired to the
Their oldest son, the first to do so among all my dad'skitchen and continued to furiously mix cake batter for
brothers and sister's children, had climbed to the top ofa cake. It was her way to cope with grief.
the educational ladder.I cried for months. My mom soldiered on - finally having
In 1963, at the age of fifty-five my dad began to loseto sell her house and move to an apartment.
his balance more and more often, falling once throughShe continued to love us all but started a life of her
the cellar stairs hole in a house he, and his brotherown for the first time since dad's death. She joined
were building. After numerous tests he was diagnosedParents Without Partners and became one of their
with Parkinson's disease and had to go on disabilitymost popular members - everyone wanted Flora to
because he could no longer be considered safe on thedo the cooking for their parties.
job. He was one of the first to be placed on LevaShe and Lida grew closer. I was in my eighth year as
Dopa. It worked for a while and he could walk almosta college professor when my dad died - earning my
completely normally.way through the ranks of assistant and associate
Mom loved him dearly and we all sorrowed. Sheprofessor to full professor that my dad lived to see in
waited on him hand and foot even to cutting his meat1973.
on his plate and trying his shoes as the diseaseMa was proud of all her children and grandchildren, but
progressed. Dad was a proud man - he continued asshe always held a special place in my heart as her
long as he could to sharpen saws and do small jobs in"Sonny Boy". She kept track of my every move,
our house's basement to earn money to supplementmostly through Lida, as she was at our house or we
his disability benefit. His Carpenter Union friends whomat hers for every major holiday, birthdays, baptisms,
he had served as Secretary/Treasure at the local andand other significant family events.